If I take it on my Professional Front - Somehow I am ok with the meaning of the quote . I say this cause it has to be true that the people you want work from should not take you for granted. In Business the balance that is needed to handle so many people , it is important to have a code of conduct. The discipline has to be maintained as one staff can relate to the other and there can be a lot of problems. One simple example could be that a Staff is asking for leave very often and if he is never refused , others who are more sincere will have grudges against him and obviously the company . Here the imbalance will be a major problem.
Now if I talk on a Personal Front-here is what is just not getting into me. I am confused by the fact that when you have someone who knows you as a person then why is there a need to believe in the words of the quote" there are no free lunches"? Alright i know these big words of- Self Respect and have a Bit of Mystery . I again say I accept this word if its professionally there , On personal front specially with the one you are closest to, I believe in Equal Respect not Self Respect . Close relationships do not work on Self , Relationships work on Equality. Now ok, Here I should make clear also one thing- I am talking of a Close relationship of a Spouse or the one closest to you and not all of them.I have never believed in the Concept of Arranged marriages but on this some other day.
When a Bond is strong there will be many instances where circumstances bring you to a point where you may act or behave differently than you are in usual times. Obviously , that has to happen. Lets say the Husband has something very important in the work front and the thought process is totally concentrated in it. Here the wife may see the changes in his behaviour and may also get angry at times that the attention towards her is divided. It is this very time that if she ever understood that her reaction was not wrong but also that she cannot expect attention from her spouse. Infact , if it so happens that the attention is given , it may not be to the best and then there will be more complains. It has to be true the other way round as well and then the Husband needs to understand.
Ok maybe I get a different picture of the quote here . It may also say that the understanding should be mutual. If one understands and the Equal respect exists the Mechanics of the Quote change gears ! They simply mean Respecting the Space both the partners need.
I guess this is where the present generation is not able to adjust. There is either no space given as infidelity is at an all time high or the space is too much that invariably infidelity comes in.Also the meaning of the Quote does not change for different situations , Personally and professionally. Yes I know its easy to just type these words but having seen it in Healthy relations its the total Trust that matters in the end. But its certainly not going to work if the mistake is never rectified and repeated again and again.
To put the meaning of the Quote in my words I would say - Never let there be Change with a negative impact to break relations till it can be worked for but a Change with more Love !!!
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